Hello CrystalHeart,
I was so sorry to hear your story.
Maybe he has a good reason for his behaviour ~ or maybe he thinks that he has ~ but the way you tell the story it sounds cruel and unfeeling and I think that you are better off without him. I know that sounds harsh. but if he can treat you as he has, then a long term relationship with him would not have been good for you.
If he knew that he was going to break up with you, why didn't he just tell you?
He was afraid ~ because he knew that it would break your heart and he didn't want to witness that.
But why say that he loved you and make plans for the future?!
As I said, unless there is some unknown reason somewhere, he probably just thought that it was easier to break up with you when there was a huge distance between you.
Don't chase him ~ for one thing, it isn't to your advantage and for another, you might be considered a stalker.
Grieve for this lost relationship, but remember, you have probably had a lucky escape and you will be happy again, someday, with someone who can treat you with more understanding and respect ~ and love!
Time heals.
Good luck ~ things will improve, don't forget that.
Take care.
