I am no expert, I am divorced. But-- kid will be 18 soon, might be a good idea to consider bf having kid more, for kid's sake. and obviously he (kid) needs a woman like you around since his mom is so emotionally unstable. once kid (name?) is 18, he can choose where to go--dad should make sure he wants to choose dad so he has a more stable environment. if kid has been sheltered all his life, can't throw him into outdoor activities, he is not built up for that as far as immune system is required. lack of outdoor might be due to mom's sheltering. bf has new job, "new father" responsibilites, new city...and if living with or near parents, that could add a whole different level of stress, even if they get along! If your heart is truly invloved, don't act on impulse of over-the-phone arguments. Can you vacation to spend more time with bf and son? Maybe, as you said, it is just the distance. BTW, he's not abusive is he? If he is abusive, and not just neglectful, definitely RUN!
