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Update: So far there has been little contact but only coz we are employed at the same place and are now on the same shift there were 2 shifts he worked the 2nd but because of the economy our company has gone to 1shift luckily I work on one end of factory and he on other. I miss all the good qualities of our relationship but there were issues on both our behalfs that have to be resolved before we can have a happy/healthy relationship with each other or any one else I accept the fact that I need to work on me I've known this for a long time just been avoiding, denying etc...And it feels awkward to say I'm gonna be selfish about me and thats that for now until I feel Happy/Healthy. Ironically before I got into this relationship I was advised that I wasn't ready and to wait a year. But No I'm rather stubborn and like usual have to learn the hard way so word of advice when you get good advice from a good source listen to it!! Homie

It's good that you are accentuating the positives, and being aware of the dangers. And it's good to organize your thoughts and to get some encouragement. I'm happy to tell you: well done!

Good for you.

The "feelings" of reward can be misleading, so I'm warning you to be careful with them. As I've said before, the slow and gradual increase in your inner satisfaction with yourself may not be as obvious as you'd like. You may think - oh, there's not been any change. Or, not enough. I still want....

Or, you may think: I've been so "good," I deserve a reward. And while you may not have a specific in mind, you're kind of set-up in your mind and emotions for something to slow you down, or take you back.

So, day by day, step by step, keep on keeping on. You will be happier.

Homie, you seem to know what you need and want ~ and are, perhaps, just asking for opinions and reassurance.

Sometimes you have to be 'selfish'.
You cannot give love, advice, support, etc, unless and until you are comfortable in your own self, so it's good for you ~ and good for those who you care for ~ that you give yourself time to be happy with yourself.