I really, really feel for you, Ipod. Of course you are hurting -- you obviously care a lot for this gal.
From what you wrote, just stepping back and looking at it objectively, it seems that this girl is not reciprocating your feelings much. You have made many sacrifices and she has not; you seem to be fighting hard to save the relationship but she does not.
I know it seems so hard on you right now, but in my opinion you should let go of her, emotionally. If things work out for you both down the line, great; if you each meet other people, great. Don't you think it would be wasting your time and energy to keep trying to make this relationship work for year after year? You sound like a caring person who deserves better.
