Whew! This sounds like a nightmare, and I feel for you.
If I may be blunt, though, this guy sounds like bad news all the way -- seriously -- controlling, weird, jealous for no reason, rude, etc.
I don't want to hurt your feelings, Maggie, and I know you're going through a tough time even apart from the issue of him, but I truly think he "has issues," as they say, and it sure doesn't sound like he's going to get his act together any time soon.
I think the earlier posts contain some really, really good advice; all I can add is that you might want to turn to other people in your life for emotional support (mom, friends) and do whatever you need to, to get you and your daughter away from this guy.
