Hi
I think that you are being very wise and mature to go for counselling. Well done!
I really think that it's as well not to even think about other matters until you have got this sorted out.
It would probably be a good idea, though, just to let this girl know tht you are aware of the problem and that you are doing something about it.
Perhaps you could send her a brief letter of apology and explain what you have decided to do.
If she, too, agrees that you are being positive and mature about this, then, who knows, she might take you back, after all.
However, before you can really do anything about this, you need to sort your issues out.
Good luck!
