I guess sometimes you really do have to ask for what you want clearly.
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I don't think that it is a case of no spontaneous hugs, it's more a case of knowing how one's comments are likely to be interpreted.
And it's not just a male / female absolute.
I have done personality tests, where I come out very 'male' in some of my ways, & I know that I react in this male way.
know I do it, so I should try to put my knowledge to some use, but being aware doesn't always make one realise what one should be doing. For example, a number of people, when they have problems, often come to me. Often, of course, I cannot solve the problem ~ and that is what I will say ~ but I really need to realise that often these people just need a shoulder to cry on and maybe a hug ~ rather than a solution.
