... you say it helped you understand your boys better so maybe they do work ...
I particularly found that misunderstandings were less likely to occur between me and my husband.
Just an example:
Say something has upset or annoyed the woman.
She tells her husband.
He wants to put things right.
She just wants a bit of sympathy and moral support.
He doesn't give it, because he's thinking of ways to solve the problem.
She gets upset, because he isn't giving her the sympathy & moral support that she craves.
He gets upset, because she isn't appreciating his attempts to solve the problem.
Both are feeling uncared for.
Neither is understanding the other's needs.
If something goes wrong for me now, I might say to my husband, something like,
such and such has upset / annoyed me, but I am not asking you to do anything about it, except to give me a hug..
