You've received good counsel, Superstar, IMO.
Victor, I was very impressed with what you had to say. Earlier in the day befoe PDM and you posted, I started to post, but because I was having a fairly poor impression of Superstar's fiance, I decided to say nothing. In my past, I have offered counsel that was fairer, but this time I believe I would have been intemperate, and thus unwise.
Superstar, I agree with Victor. Cheating and lying is not the rule - among men or women.
I cannot say any pretty words to try to cover the hurt that you feel. But that very hurt and your willingness to speak of it here rather than let it fester in your heart are only the beginning of the grieving process. YOU may grieve, but peace will come.
I once prayed for restoration of a relationship, and beyond that - for my heart to not grow hard, but to be able to love and be loved again. The first did not happen, but the second did.
All of us send you and your daughter hugs.
