Craig, I don't know whether or not she loves you. If she is as confused as you sound, then maybe she doesn't know either.

Read what you have said:
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'my ex is just a heartless she devil and a spoilt brat....
i gave tha girl alls i could an she spat it bck in my face
i hope the new guy sees her for what she is '

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'i am still chasing after her'
'i wernt in love with the last girl and the fort of having no contact scares me'


You say how bad she is, then add that you love her.
She is saying that she still loves you, but is dating someone else, it seems???

How do you know that she is saying that she loves you?

Maybe not chasing her would allow her time to really consider her feelings, without pressure, but, as I said, 'plans' to win her back may not be a good iddea. Only the way you both feel should decide that.

At the moment there is a lot of bitterness, which is not going to help matters.

Perhaps you do just need to give her some time and space ~ alternatively, you could write her a letter, explaining how you feel and why (though this could cause problems, if she still has another boyfriend).

Either option could make things better or worse, depending on the people involved.

Do you really think that she is 'a heartless she devil'?
Is she actually dating someone else?
Is she really pleased that you were going out with another girl?
Are you sure that she says that she still loves you?
Is it romantic love or friendly love?

You cannot force romantic love.
If it exists, then great.
If it doesn't, then you really just have to accept that.

If you do get back together, then you will probably need to have a good talk ~ and you will also probably need to sort out your feelings of anger etc.

Last edited by PDM; 11/30/10 07:46 PM.
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