This is all about teenage boys and confidence.
They seem either to have too much, or too little, or too little masquerading as too much ~ especially when it comes to girls.

From what you say, I'm guessing that you are at least reasonably good looking and you are intelligent. Both can be very attractive to the right girl.

You sit by her (I've removed her name for safety & privacy reasons) for half your classes & you really like her, yet you don't speak to her ~ so she has no idea how you feel. Surely you must be able to talk to her about something, even if it's only the subject of the lesson. What subjects are you studying?

You say you are 'shy around girls I like'.
Many boys are ~ many girls feel exactly the same way, too.

You say: 'I'm not very funny.'
Well, yes, girls do seem to like boys who make them laugh ~ that is true ~ but they also like boys they trust & with whom they can relax. That is much more important ~ especially the trust, I think. Obviously they have to like them, too, and no-one can force their feelings. That has to be remembered, too.

Do you know these lyrics?
'Don't laugh at my jokes too much, people will say we're in love.'
The thing is, if a girl really likes a boy, then all his jokes will amuse her, but she has to like him. If she dislikes him, his jokes will just irritate her. So don't try to be funny.

Have a look at this thread:
'Getting her to laugh.'
http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=238106&fpart=1

Pleasant girls like pleasant boys; boys who are kind, caring and friendly. If a girl likes you, she won't care whether you are 'the most popular guy in school'; it would be irrelevant.

You are into sports and she may be doing track ~ but you are 'not sure'. Why don't you find out? Why don't you ask her? Are you planning to do track this year? See if you can word it so that you get more than a yes / no answer. Tell her that you do track & field. Say you might see her there. Ask her if she's into sports? Does she like soccer? What sports and games does she like?

'She doesnt belong to after school clubs that I know of.'
Does she belong to any that you don't know of?
Does she belong to any out-of-school clubs or societies?
She may do first aid or ballroom dancing, or anything. Just ask her. If you like her, you will be interested ~ show that you are interested, but try not to sound over-eager.

'The problem isnt that I can't talk it is that I can't think of things to talk about.'
Why not?
Can you talk to your male friends?
Can you talk to your family?
Can you talk to members of your soccer team?

With a high IQ, you must be able to find out about all sorts of things, so you should be able to find lots of things to talk about.

You say: 'but I have an iq of 170(possibly higher.'
Different scales measure IQ in different ways, but on any scale this sounds fairly high. I'm just wondering about the 'but'??? ~ Why do you say that?
I know lots of people with a similar score, most are successful and happy.

Keep smiling, be friendly, stop worrying, but be yourself.
And just talk to her; if she is sitting next to you for all these classes and being ignored by you, she might be wondering if she is doing something wrong!

Last edited by PDM; 04/03/08 03:50 PM.

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