Only you can decide what is the right thing for you.
If that man was being disrespectful about her, then I do think that you did the right thing to tell her.
Personally, I think that she should make her choice. I don't think that it is right to date another man ~ and sleep with him ~ but still expect you to love her and care about her. You say that you are on a break ~ but it isn't a complete break.
If I were you, I think that I would try to move on, because this sort of thing would not suit me at all ~ but it's not me ~ it's you.
Are you willing to wait for her, no matter what ~ knowing that she is sleeping with him and he is sending you unpleasant messages?
If so, then I admire your patience & tolerance.
She is, in effect, dating him, but demanding affection from you.
Is this what you want?
Obviously it isn't, otherwise you would not be posting your concerns.
I think that, since you care for her, and have not decided to move on, you need to have an objective discussion with her about where your relationship is going, whether there is any future in it, and whether you can really make it work ~ or if you both want to make it work.
Sometimes age is relevant ~ how old are you both?
Good luck!
Last edited by PDM; 08/04/08 12:56 AM.
