Obsessed with love
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I am 17 years old, and ever since I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 weeks (I was being dumb and emotional), I started reading love novels. (Note: I don't think it really has anything to do with why I started reading love novels, but I have no idea) Even before then I was watching chick flicks such as "A Walk to Remember." Any movie that made me cry I would buy and watch a million times. So after I found romance novels, I started buying and checking out a million of them. I would go through at least 4 a week. They were usually all contemporary, and I would go far lengths to get a new book by my favorite author. Lately I think this is becoming a problem. I am back into movies and it somewhat freaks me out. I watched "The Notebook" and I cried my eyes out at the end, but I was fascinated in the beginning when Noah and Allie were falling in love. I couldn't stop thinking about it and I watched the movie a few times but I had to return it. It was like I was addicted to it because I felt as if I was having withdrawals. All I keep thinking about is how hard I would have fallen if I was her, or what would I have done in a situation like that etc... I get light headed and my heart races and my face gets flushed. Then as another example to strenthen my question, I just recently watched "Say Anything." This was probably the worst I've ever been obsessed with a certain situation. When I watched it the first time, I loved it. I loved it so much, guess what, I watched it again. But I couldn't stop thinking about it like inside of school or when I was at work. I would think about when they were kissing or telling eachother they loved eachother. When I watched that movie, it gave me chills and I got light headed and my heart raced as well. But this is what I look for. I noticed I might have an emotional problem because I was watching a heavy make out scene, and I started crying. It was almost like an overload. I don't know exactly what's wrong with me, but I just can't stop thinking about love, and I'm only 17 for crying out loud!
I guess my real question is what exactly is wrong with me? Why do I spend hours at a time looking for movies such as Say Anything and The Notebook, and become obsessed with the characters falling in love? No one my age is like this. I feel like I should be having fun and no serious relationships, but I most definitely want to find true love. It might be the idea of some of the movies I watch, I have no idea. I just feel somewhat sick (meaning like headaches, sadness somewhat) and I want to not have to think about love all the time.
Talk to your school nurse and try to impress on her how this is interfering with your life. You could also ask you parents to send you to a psychologist for a professional evaluation. What you described is probably not as unusual as you think it is, but I would take steps anyway if I were you.
-- from George
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