My Husband Keeps Lying
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, I need serious advice. My husband can't stop lying. I am to the point of divorce. This has been happening since before we got married. He always promises to stop and then I catch him in a lie again. He then tells me that he lies to avoid me being mad at him. His mother also told me that he has always had a lying problem. I have asked him if we should both go to counseling or if he wants to go alone and he says he doesn't have time. I am at my wits end with the lying. I don't trust anything he says or does. It is like a circle of lies. First he tells me he will never lie again so I start to trust him again. And then I feel comfortable believing him and trusting him and then all of a sudden, I find out a lie. He lies about EVERYTHING!!!
What do I do??? This is ruining my marriage and making me CRAZY. He has even got to the point of telling me I AM crazy when I remember things he says and he says he didn't say that. It is like he is even forgetting his own lies.
He is a great father and a fairly good husband otherwise. I don't want my son growing up thinking lying is okay. And I don't want to continue a marriage that is untrustworthy. What is the point of being married to someone that you don't believe a word they say and question everything??
What do i do? What do I say to him???
Thanks so much
A relationship is all about trust. And if he doesn't feel your relationship is worth making time for, then it's time to call it quits. I'm not sure what else there is to say about that. Your relationship is THE most important thing in your lives. If he doesn't even have time to sit down and get this problem fixed, what else could he possible have that is more important? If you can't trust him with the relatively stupid little stuff, how could you possibly trust him when something important like your health or life is on the line? And if you can NOT trust him with your life, why would you live with him? Talk to a minister, a therapist, and get yourself some support - and then get away from this liar.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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