My Husband Keeps Lying
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi, I need serious advice. My husband can't stop lying. I am to the point of divorce. This has been happening since before we got married. He always promises to stop and then I catch him in a lie again. He then tells me that he lies to avoid me being mad at him. His mother also told me that he has always had a lying problem. I have asked him if we should both go to counseling or if he wants to go alone and he says he doesn't have time. I am at my wits end with the lying. I don't trust anything he says or does. It is like a circle of lies. First he tells me he will never lie again so I start to trust him again. And then I feel comfortable believing him and trusting him and then all of a sudden, I find out a lie. He lies about EVERYTHING!!!
What do I do??? This is ruining my marriage and making me CRAZY. He has even got to the point of telling me I AM crazy when I remember things he says and he says he didn't say that. It is like he is even forgetting his own lies.
He is a great father and a fairly good husband otherwise. I don't want my son growing up thinking lying is okay. And I don't want to continue a marriage that is untrustworthy. What is the point of being married to someone that you don't believe a word they say and question everything??
What do i do? What do I say to him???
Thanks so much
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
marriage is hard work
I am in the same boat but he doesnt lie all of the time just about serious stuff he has continuously let me down everytime I feel like I can trust him again, mine started with him going out and porn and stuff that branches off of that what I want to know is why do we stay when we are at the end of our rope plus he is military so that makes it worse and I agree if he cant make time to make it work or acts like he doesnt care then I would say goodbye I am very close to that myself marriage is hard work good luck girl.
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