what shall i do ??
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hello !!! ok my situtation is killing me inside i have no idea what i should do . Ok i am 21 and i am studying at a university . ever since a young age (15-16) i always had an idea of how i want my dream girl .. kind ,polite, innocent,very smart,takes things seriously , has a good personality and iner strength! a girl that doesn t like drinking or smoking or drugs or anything like that!! i have met that girl 6 months ago .. but i met her from facebook! so we began talking and then we started having video calls on skype ... we share our thoughts , we talk we laugh and we really really like each other.. The problem which is killing is that ... she is 16 ! and from a different country! but we have sooooo many things in common and i havent met a girl like that ever in my 21 years! and i found what i was looking for on a 16 years old girl from a different country . this sAugust she is going to greece with her famliy (like every year) and somehow we said i should go too and we can meet for the 1st time ! i am very excited but i dont know if i am doing the right thing going there .. because after a week i will be gone and it could be hard on the both of us and i dont want to to hurt her feelings but i cant help it i like her sooo much and i care about her feelings .. but maybe this is the point where i should put my feeling aside and do the right thing? which is not to go to meet her .. therefore i wont break he heart?
I dont know what to do ... i dont want to loose her because she is an AMAZING mature person only at the age of 16 .. i mean she talks 6 languages and doesnt find interesting going to clubs and party like animal (something that most girls do today) anyway she doesnt find it interesting! but also a voice inside me tells me that this might not be right .. what shall i do ????
Thank you in advance! i spend every night thinking about this :(
That voice is probably telling you that she is too young to be getting involved so deeply with a 21 year old. How do you think this will turn out? Are you thinking of marriage? Is she going to college?
There seems to be a high probability of both of you getting hurt out of this relationship. You have only known each other six months. My advice is to wait until the following summer to meet her. By then she will be another year older and you will know each other better.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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