what shall i do ??
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
hello !!! ok my situtation is killing me inside i have no idea what i should do . Ok i am 21 and i am studying at a university . ever since a young age (15-16) i always had an idea of how i want my dream girl .. kind ,polite, innocent,very smart,takes things seriously , has a good personality and iner strength! a girl that doesn t like drinking or smoking or drugs or anything like that!! i have met that girl 6 months ago .. but i met her from facebook! so we began talking and then we started having video calls on skype ... we share our thoughts , we talk we laugh and we really really like each other.. The problem which is killing is that ... she is 16 ! and from a different country! but we have sooooo many things in common and i havent met a girl like that ever in my 21 years! and i found what i was looking for on a 16 years old girl from a different country . this sAugust she is going to greece with her famliy (like every year) and somehow we said i should go too and we can meet for the 1st time ! i am very excited but i dont know if i am doing the right thing going there .. because after a week i will be gone and it could be hard on the both of us and i dont want to to hurt her feelings but i cant help it i like her sooo much and i care about her feelings .. but maybe this is the point where i should put my feeling aside and do the right thing? which is not to go to meet her .. therefore i wont break he heart?
I dont know what to do ... i dont want to loose her because she is an AMAZING mature person only at the age of 16 .. i mean she talks 6 languages and doesnt find interesting going to clubs and party like animal (something that most girls do today) anyway she doesnt find it interesting! but also a voice inside me tells me that this might not be right .. what shall i do ????
Thank you in advance! i spend every night thinking about this :(
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Why does age matter when it comes to being with someone? Theres more depth to things then what most people realize. Things can be in color. Not just in black and white. My opnion is this "if you really like her dont sneak around. When people are sneaky its cause they have somthing to hide. They are doing somthing they shouldnt. If she makes you happy and makes you feel free then by all means go for it. Let her parents know who you are. Be honest. You dont want your relationship to be based on lies. Especially if you intend to marry her some day. You want to be on her parents good side lol. Remember these two things though. As much as you like her there is still a law you live by... Witch interferes with the age thing. And 2nd. There are many other women out there who are like you and are what you want. It may take a while before you find them, but trust me when i say this " it really is worth the wait."'
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