what shall i do ??
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
hello !!! ok my situtation is killing me inside i have no idea what i should do . Ok i am 21 and i am studying at a university . ever since a young age (15-16) i always had an idea of how i want my dream girl .. kind ,polite, innocent,very smart,takes things seriously , has a good personality and iner strength! a girl that doesn t like drinking or smoking or drugs or anything like that!! i have met that girl 6 months ago .. but i met her from facebook! so we began talking and then we started having video calls on skype ... we share our thoughts , we talk we laugh and we really really like each other.. The problem which is killing is that ... she is 16 ! and from a different country! but we have sooooo many things in common and i havent met a girl like that ever in my 21 years! and i found what i was looking for on a 16 years old girl from a different country . this sAugust she is going to greece with her famliy (like every year) and somehow we said i should go too and we can meet for the 1st time ! i am very excited but i dont know if i am doing the right thing going there .. because after a week i will be gone and it could be hard on the both of us and i dont want to to hurt her feelings but i cant help it i like her sooo much and i care about her feelings .. but maybe this is the point where i should put my feeling aside and do the right thing? which is not to go to meet her .. therefore i wont break he heart?
I dont know what to do ... i dont want to loose her because she is an AMAZING mature person only at the age of 16 .. i mean she talks 6 languages and doesnt find interesting going to clubs and party like animal (something that most girls do today) anyway she doesnt find it interesting! but also a voice inside me tells me that this might not be right .. what shall i do ????
Thank you in advance! i spend every night thinking about this :(
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
you say she doesnt like to smoke or drink..shes only 16, thats something you have to think about. people can change in a year you never know. and someone on the internet is never like meeting them in person so i would wait till you see her to give that judgement...
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