Very true. Although my head had accepted that no matter how much twlelve step work I had done, my first wife and I were not getting back together, my heart hadn't. I was still doing it for her, or to show her. And the second wife was just too soon. Also the second's family still considered her first husband as still her husband, and there was too much of cliqueishness rather than being part of her family as she was part of mine.
But, I dealt with it, and learned to be a bachelor again. And, as you said, brought a more complete Carl to Marge.
