Good story, MrsKongcrete! Back when my first marriage ended, I used to read the Travis McGee series books. In one book, McGee observed how, when it died for a woman, it was over for good. So many times, she has grieved for a long period of time, and the man doesn't seem to notice, or thinks it doesn't matter. He thinks it's forever no matter what he does. Then he grieves and thinks, "I'll do anything!" But it's usually too late for that woman.
I'm glad you were willing to give him another chance. And I'm glad he took the steps to save himself and his marriage and his family.
My second wife and I became friends, then married, then split up, then got back together - but not in remarriage. Finally, I realized that we could be friends, but were not suited as living partners, and I determined to break my "addiction" of needing someone. And I worked more on me.
A while later, I met Marge.
So I do understand the dilemma.
Thanks for sharing.
