In a way, though, you have already decided.
You cannot keep the girl, if you allow your mother to control who you see, and threaten those she disapproves of.
There doesn't seem to be a way of working round it, unless it is your mother's choice.
If your mother wants to keep you single & with her ~ then that's how it will be.
You may manage to get a partner, but only if it is a girl she chooses for you.
You asked for help & advice, but I think the decision is already made.
You called your ex-girlfriend 'the girl of your dreams', yet you were willing to give her up, because your mother disapproved without ever having seen her.
You have made your choice.
If you think that you have made the wrong choice then you will either have to live with it, or stand up to your mother.
Last edited by PDM; 04/03/09 11:40 PM.
