Ok.
Your mother needs to have a life of her own. At 66, with no health issues, she is still relatively young. The menopause should be past by that age.
You say that you are the only son, but you didn't say that you are an only child. Does that mean that you have sisters?
She has few friends, but she does have relatives, and she belongs to clubs, so she does not need to be lonely or rely only on you.
I have never been to Singapore, but if this sort of thing is commonplace in your culture, then that probably cannot be changed, but surely this does not mean that all young men are socialising only with their mothers, & never marrying?
Could you arrange something, whereby your mother can realise that she is still young enough to do things which don't involve you?
Can other friends & relatives be involved?
If she stopped relying on you and realised that she can do things by herself or with friends, things might improve for you.
You say that she rejected counselling ~ could you not tell her, clearly, that you are going to live your life to the full and that she needs to do likewise and that if she cannot do this without help, then she really should go for counselling?
Are you going to continue to live with your mother and remain without a girlfriend?
Or are you going to discuss this, adult to adult, sort things out, and make your own path?
Did you agree with the comments in my last post?
You need to be assertive without being hurtful.
Personally, I think that you need to make it absulutely clear that it is completely wrong to threaten & frighten your girlfriend.
What are you going to do?
The choice is yours.
Good luck!
