Hello & welcome BrokenInside
Yes, As Pudgie's Mum says, 8 years is indeed a long time.
And a lot can happen in 8 years.
People can grow closer, or they can grow apart.
You are not alone. A number of other people on the forum have partners who have suddenly said that they feel the need for a break, or to be just friends.
I feel that this is a gentle way of saying that the person will always hold a special place in their heart, but that they are no longer in love with them ~ or, at least, no longer sure that they are in love.
If there is sadness ~ depression even ~ and shouting and lost tempers, then it is not surprising that the relationship is failing. And it can't be good for the child.
The question is whether the screaming is the result of a failing relationship, or whether the failing relationship is a result of the screaming. Either way, you will both need to decide whether you are going to try to save it. If so, relationship counselling might be a good idea.
Maybe the 'someone else' has come on the scene because of all the misery, and if things improved, that person would stop being involved in your lives. Or maybe your partner has really found someone new.
It might be worth stepping back, looking at the relationship, and trying to be objective about it.
Could you sit down together, with no outbreaks of temper, and discuss it quietly and objectively?
If you want to save it, it might be for the best.
And do please bear in mind the child's thoughts and fears.
Good luck!
