Sometimes feeling take time to mature. You probably feel stronger about her than you did a while back. Maybe she is feeling the same way but does not want to give up an established relationship if you do not feel the same. Telling her you had a crush a few months ago does not define what you feel now. She seems to be indicating that she is attracted to qualities you have. If you take the bull by the horns and tell her that you value her friendship and enjoy spending time with her but that the more time you spend with her it makes it difficult to just stay friends. This does not expose you to rejection, because you are giving her the opportunity to agree, which tells you she feels the same. On the other hand you are not telling her the depth of your feelings so that there is an awkward moment if she does not feel the same. She can respond by telling you that she values your friendship also. If nothing more is volunteered then that is your answer. She wants to be friends. She will probably realize that seeing so much of you is making it difficult for you and will probably back off herself. If on the other hand she has feelings this opens the discussion of "where do we go from here". If she doesn't appear to be willing to give up the boyfriend at this point then perhaps Pudgies mom is right. You may have feelings that are stronger than hers and are heading for problems. If you really do care for her though, maybe it is a case of winning her heart. You could try a kiss on the cheek and see where it leads. If it leads to a real kiss then you should expect her to give up the boyfriend. If she is serious she will, in my opinion. Either way, you will have more to help you figure out what you should do than you do now.
Last edited by joandboys; 01/01/08 12:03 AM.
