I believe i am compromising by not drinking around her

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My Girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years now. She is strong against drinking and against me drinking. She recently has been putting a limitation on when, where, and how often I can go out with my freinds or even relax and have a beer watching a game. I believe that the argument on the issue is about the limits she is putting on me and the rules that she is trying to force upon me. I believe that in a relationship, a person has to keep their person identity and what they do without having rules given from another person. She on the other hand believes that all relationships have limitations and that I am not willing to compromise. I believe i am compromising by not drinking around her, before i see her or after i do something with her. She believes that this is just repesct and the only way for us to stay together is for me to compromise on a rule of how often, where and when. Please give me any advice possible

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I favor your argument.

She comes across as somewhat of a control-freak. However if the matter is that important to her you two may have to part ways over it (if you are not willing to give in.)

I think you have compromised reasonably by what you have done. It's a tough call to try to figure out if she is going over the border with her requests. Next thing, she may be trying to tell you what to eat.

You two need to figure it out by honest talk and compromise if you feel agreeable.

Good luck!

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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