I believe i am compromising by not drinking around her
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My Girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years now. She is strong against drinking and against me drinking. She recently has been putting a limitation on when, where, and how often I can go out with my freinds or even relax and have a beer watching a game. I believe that the argument on the issue is about the limits she is putting on me and the rules that she is trying to force upon me. I believe that in a relationship, a person has to keep their person identity and what they do without having rules given from another person. She on the other hand believes that all relationships have limitations and that I am not willing to compromise. I believe i am compromising by not drinking around her, before i see her or after i do something with her. She believes that this is just repesct and the only way for us to stay together is for me to compromise on a rule of how often, where and when. Please give me any advice possible
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
do not get married
Trust me, do not get married! Unless you are ready to give up drinking, this is not an issue that will go away, it will only grow, and both of your social lives will be miserable!
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