Jealousy over porn

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i was in an abusive relationship for more than 7 years. i was mentally, verbally and physically abused. my self esteem has been shattered because of it. i have been trying different things to boost my self esteem. i am remarried to a wonderful man who loves me and would do anything for me. since i have met him i have felt much better about my self and my life. my current husband looks at porn on the internet. i know it is just images on a screen, but it bothers me. it makes me feel like i am not doing enough for him or that i am not good enough for him. i recently talked with him about it, and he said i am more important than porn and he would stop looking at it now that he knew it bothered me so much. i feel horrible though still because i do not want to be a controlling "mommy". our sex life is good and he is not compromising it for the porn. i just do not understand his purpose of looking at it, and he cannot tell me why he does. i have even went so far as making our own for him..but he still chose to look at the other i dont want to be a mom to him...but i don't want to feel in competition with it either. Advice
My advice is to let him look at it. He enjoys it probably because it turns him on. From you have said everything is ok with your relationship. Why make an issue of this? I know it is difficult to understand and accept but it is worth it if it keeps a good relationship going.

Good luck,

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