Jealousy over porn
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
i was in an abusive relationship for more than 7 years. i was mentally, verbally and physically abused. my self esteem has been shattered because of it. i have been trying different things to boost my self esteem. i am remarried to a wonderful man who loves me and would do anything for me. since i have met him i have felt much better about my self and my life. my current husband looks at porn on the internet. i know it is just images on a screen, but it bothers me. it makes me feel like i am not doing enough for him or that i am not good enough for him. i recently talked with him about it, and he said i am more important than porn and he would stop looking at it now that he knew it bothered me so much. i feel horrible though still because i do not want to be a controlling "mommy". our sex life is good and he is not compromising it for the porn. i just do not understand his purpose of looking at it, and he cannot tell me why he does. i have even went so far as making our own for him..but he still chose to look at the other porn..help i dont want to be a mom to him...but i don't want to feel in competition with it either.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
I am dealing with the same thing except instead of internet porn, it is video's & dvd's. He too promised to quit looking at them but now I've found that he just hides it, well, tries to hide it from me. It's really hard not to take it personally. Now, on top of him doing something that he knows bothers me, he is lying too. He would totally freak if I were looking at naked guys...
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