He Cheated on Me Then Lied
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
ive been with my boyfriend who im completley in love with for 7months and everything was going perfect but then all of a sudden the day before i went out of town with my dance company he said we should break up.
well while i was on my trip i completley missed my period and thought i was pregnant so even though i was incredably mad at him i called and told him what was going on and he was completley there for me and said that we could probably work things out. i told him i didnt want to get back together if that was his only reason for doing it.
when i got home i took a pregnancy test and i was fine. he and i had a big talk and he admited to me a really big secret he had been keeping from me he's bisexual. i was completley freaked out by this but i told him that it didnt change the way i feel about him but i was so mad because he had lied.
the next day i had a friend tell me that my boyfriend had cheated on me and even worse it was with my former best friend who i had stopped talking to cause she was starting to become obsessed with me and i had warned him to stay away from her cause i knew she would try somthing. when i confronted him he completley deniyed it but his best friend couldnt so i completley freaked out and in the middle of the lunch room at school i freaked out and started hitting him and yelling and all sorts of stuff. he then couldnt lie anymore.
he tryed calling me that night to make me believe he was sorry i made him be completley honest with me and i found out that the reason he broke up with me was because he felt guilty but then he had sex with her again. he wants to try and work things out because he supposadly "loves" me but i really think that if he loved me he wouldnt have done it once let alone twice. i love him so much and want to be with him but i know he will probably do it again. but i really do love him. i just dont know what to do he has hurt me to the fullest extent and i still want to be with him what should i do?
One of the sad things you learn in life is that you can love people but still choose not to be with them. Say your mom always beat you. You could love her even though she beat you - but choose to move to live with your dad. You could love your sister who screams at you all the time - but choose not to see her every day once you move out of the house. The same is true here. You love him, and that's fine. I'm sure there are good reasons to love him. However, he cannot be a good partner for you in life. Love him as a person - but choose someone else to be your boyfriend. Honesty is THE most important thing you can possibly have in any relationship.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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