He Cheated on Me Then Lied
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
ive been with my boyfriend who im completley in love with for 7months and everything was going perfect but then all of a sudden the day before i went out of town with my dance company he said we should break up.
well while i was on my trip i completley missed my period and thought i was pregnant so even though i was incredably mad at him i called and told him what was going on and he was completley there for me and said that we could probably work things out. i told him i didnt want to get back together if that was his only reason for doing it.
when i got home i took a pregnancy test and i was fine. he and i had a big talk and he admited to me a really big secret he had been keeping from me he's bisexual. i was completley freaked out by this but i told him that it didnt change the way i feel about him but i was so mad because he had lied.
the next day i had a friend tell me that my boyfriend had cheated on me and even worse it was with my former best friend who i had stopped talking to cause she was starting to become obsessed with me and i had warned him to stay away from her cause i knew she would try somthing. when i confronted him he completley deniyed it but his best friend couldnt so i completley freaked out and in the middle of the lunch room at school i freaked out and started hitting him and yelling and all sorts of stuff. he then couldnt lie anymore.
he tryed calling me that night to make me believe he was sorry i made him be completley honest with me and i found out that the reason he broke up with me was because he felt guilty but then he had sex with her again. he wants to try and work things out because he supposadly "loves" me but i really think that if he loved me he wouldnt have done it once let alone twice. i love him so much and want to be with him but i know he will probably do it again. but i really do love him. i just dont know what to do he has hurt me to the fullest extent and i still want to be with him what should i do?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Make him prove it
My situation is just about the same, me and my boyfriend have been with each other for 7 months, I missed my period, so I took a home pregnancy test, it came out positive so I called my boyfriend all day that day because I need his support, he didn't respond to my call until 12am I received a call, that he was coming to pick me up in about 30min to an hour. He called me back around 2pm and said he wasn't coming because he had been drinking, so I told him I'd come over then, and he told no just stay home, so that was very weird to me, because he never minded before. I got very emotional with him over the phone, and he asured me everything was going to be okay and that he loved, but he still didn't want me to come over. He calmed me down, and we hung up! Calls me about 4am to see how I was feeling! Now that was weird to me, I felt something was wrong! So that morning I woke to be a work at 7am, I took off a little earlier because I just had this not so good feeling inside of me, and I drove by his house! My heart dropped, his EX car was parked in his driveway! I was so hurt and confused! I broke up with him that morning, and he came over that night to apologize and to let me know he's going to be there! I forgave him, but now it just doesn't feel the same. I love him so much, and want the best because I'm keeping the baby! I just can't trust him anymore & I'm afraid he going to hurt me! Right now I'm focusing on my life, and trying to keep my mind off him as much as I could, I miss him so much sometimes, even though I forgave him, I can't let him feel like he can do this to me again! So keep your head up girl, worry about you and only you! I know it's hard at times, almost painful, but you got to be strong, or there always going to take you for granted. If he really wants you back, make him prove to you what he's willing to do, but don't fall for it completley and leave your options open! Good luck!
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