Feeling insecure.just need advice
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Ok, I've been dating/living with my boyfriend for 4 years now, and its been kinda rocky lately. I guess within the last 2 years or so, I kinda gave up going out with my friends,etc. And that has made me become really insecure in my relationship, cause hes from out of state and use to fast pace, so he wants to still hang out all the time with or w/o me. So, anyway that brings me to my main concern-he had a lot of friends before he met me, most of them girls. And just recently i've been looking at his emails(i know this is bad), and i found out that he started talking to an ex(which is out of state). Now, from what i've read(what wasnt deleted),the emails are'nt sexual...but he tells her that he cares about her even though their lives have gone in different directions and she asks him for pics---stuff like that! And also I know they talk on phone. I questioned him once about it, but he gets mad and says nothing's going on and there just friends, and she keeps him in contact with other old friends. Should I be concerned or worried? This is really making me sick to my stomach and very insecure, Please help me!
Your insecurity is understandable. It is uncomfortable when an ex enters the picture.
But, in this situation it seems that there is nothing really to worry about. You found nothing sexual in the emails and he is honest about talking with her. It sounds like just a friendship and a way for him to keep in contact with old friends.
My advice is to let him continue talking with her but keep your eyes open.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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