Has it been my fault all along?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I are both 18 and have been together for six months. In the beggining things were ok, but then it got worse. He was texting me and then I would text back and he would say "gotta go bye." I fell in love fast because he is that amazing. One time he told me that he was picking me up to go somewhere and 5 minutes before told me his daddy cut his phone off and he never showed up..this is while we were dating. I just found out recently from his dad that that never happened. He apologized. We agreed that when we go somewhere we would call when we got there and when we left and let the other know when we arrive home...just to keep from worrying. Yet he still insists that when he leaves and doesn't text me for three hours I shouldn't get mad because I shouldn't fuss about something so little. I only do it because I worry about him because I care so much. It's not because I woant to be in his business believe me. There have been worse situations and I stuck through him treating me like I didn.t matter because I believed he could change.
Just recently he text my mom and told her that he "loves me to death but if I don't stop getting mad about little things then he doesn't know what to do." If I stop getting upset because he can't fix things after I've asked more than enough times then he will take total advantage of it and use it against me when I do get upset. I so want this to work because he is the best guy and is willing to help anyone. God led us to each other. SOmetimes I just feel like I should stop trying and let him take advantage of that because that's the only thing I know to do. Has the source of our arguments really been my fault all along?
Arguments are never one person's fault. It takes two to argue.
My advice is to stop getting upset over little things even if they seem big to you. You don't really need to get a call back to let you know he is ok. He feels inhibited by it so let it drop.
Get this figured out because it is just going to lead to more sadness if you don't.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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