Not in love with my husband after 20 years
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I met my husband when I was sixteen and married him when I was twenty three. We have one child that now is eighteen. Over the past year I have noticed my feelings are fading for my husband. I love him but I am no longer in love with him. He has a medical condition which has effected our sex life for the past few years. We do very little together, including talking. In the past few months I have become very close to a co-worker. My feelings for this person is becoming stronger. He makes me laugh and I enjoy his company. We have not become sexual involved but there is strong temptation. Both my self and co-worker are christians and we both know Gods word on marriages. I feel so emotional confused. Am I to stay in my marriage unhappy for the rest of my life because its the thing to do or ask my husband for a divorce and end both of our unhappyness. Yes, I do not think my husband is happy either. Any advise would grealy be appreciated.
My advice is to seek counseling from your pastor, perhaps you alone at first and then if it seems like a good idea, add your husband to the counseling.
It seems like your marriage is a lost cause and maybe a divorce is in order. However you need to talk it over in depth with someone you trust. If your pastor is not available, then seek out a therapist from friends' recommendation or the yellow pages.
There is no reason for you to exist in misery. Do something about this right away.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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