Not in love with my husband after 20 years
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Original Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Female
I met my husband when I was sixteen and married him when I was twenty three. We have one child that now is eighteen. Over the past year I have noticed my feelings are fading for my husband. I love him but I am no longer in love with him. He has a medical condition which has effected our sex life for the past few years. We do very little together, including talking. In the past few months I have become very close to a co-worker. My feelings for this person is becoming stronger. He makes me laugh and I enjoy his company. We have not become sexual involved but there is strong temptation. Both my self and co-worker are christians and we both know Gods word on marriages. I feel so emotional confused. Am I to stay in my marriage unhappy for the rest of my life because its the thing to do or ask my husband for a divorce and end both of our unhappyness. Yes, I do not think my husband is happy either. Any advise would grealy be appreciated.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Get a divorce
im sorry about whats goin on in your life right now...
but honestly i really feel in my heart that you should talk to your husband and tell him about how you both are unhappy and its ruining both of your lives and all you want is for him and yourself to be happy again... and then get a divorce let him no that you love him but your not inlove with him anymore... and its not his fault its just somethin that happened and you cant explain it...
you cant live your life in misery anymore.. get a divorce i no thats a hard thing to grasp after sooo long... but its the only way.... you will feel like you can breath again...
honey do what your heart tell you to.. and you cant go wrong
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