Should I leave her?

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I had a female room mate BEFORE I moved in with my current girlfriend. She was a room mate and nothing more. I told her that nothing happened between the two of us and she seemed to believed me. But then she started accusing me of cheating on her with my other female friend. She started going through my stuff and tracking where I went online. It drove me crazy! She even went as far as contacting my old room mate. They talked together and my old room mate filled my girlfriends head with lies. She started accusing me again. I cant handle it anymore. I love her but not sure if she really loves me. She doesn't say it very much. I'm looking for a new place to stay. She claims that she loves me and wants me to stay. But I cant trust her plain and simple. This is the second time its happened. And last time I threatened to leave as well. What should I do? Should I really leave or should I try and work it out with her? I'm sure she will just do it again. Advice
Oddly, the question just before your's was from a woman who sounds almost exactly like your girlfriend.

My advise to you is to move on. You two don't seem like a good match and she has had her second chance already. Trust is one of the most important aspects of a good relationship and since you don't have it (and neither does she) you should be thinking of finding someone you can trust.

I gave the women who wrote the other question some advice but told her it would be difficult. Once trust is lost, it takes a very strong and determined and loving relationship to rebuild it.

Good luck, George

-- from George
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