When to give up and move on? - 01/26/11 02:02 PM
Hello,
I came here to learn about parakeets, but found this and thought I'd ask for some opinions.
My boyfriend and I ave been together for 7 months. I am 20 and he is 24. For the most part, he's been a wonderful boyfriend. And we are just about perfect together. I love him.
But, we fight a lot. He gets angry over the smallest and stupidest things. He is super jealous and accuses me of cheating and if I ever talk to a guy or friend an old high school friend on facebook (for example) he gets mad at me. If he's stressed, he takes it out on me. He won't tell me whats really wrong unless I pull it out of him. If we have a problem that I want to talk out, he refuses to talk. He'll say "i don't know" or "sure" or "whatever" when I try. He has a bit of a double standard for himself than he does to me. He'll also find a way to get mad if I'm going to hang out with a friend.
He grew up poor in Russia actually, and had a very hard life. I know this is why he does these things. He always feels bad and apologizes, but this is no excuse. He is never violent or shows any signs of it though.
A few days ago, I saw that he still had a profile up on the dating site that we met on. It was updated with new information since we had been dating and he was online that day. I called, demanding explanation and never got any. He kind of shrugged it off. He finally said his ex messaged him and asked how he was. He said he didn't answer and signed off. I looked through his phones (I have never don't this before) and saw nothing suspicious at all. I asked to see the profile before he deleted it and he refused. he did delete it though. He insisted nothing was going on. I really don't think he would cheat on me because he really is such a caring guy, but this just has me thinking.
I've tried talking about all of this to him and made it very clear I can't argue all of the time, but it keeps happening. It started after about 3 months of dating. Typing this all out now makes it seem like an obvious choice to break up with him. But I really do love him. And with this aside, he is absolutely wonderful. He's everything I want in a man. I just don't know when to stop giving chances. I was like that with my ex as well, I let that go on for way too long.
Thoughts and opinions are appreciated. Thanks.
I came here to learn about parakeets, but found this and thought I'd ask for some opinions.
My boyfriend and I ave been together for 7 months. I am 20 and he is 24. For the most part, he's been a wonderful boyfriend. And we are just about perfect together. I love him.
But, we fight a lot. He gets angry over the smallest and stupidest things. He is super jealous and accuses me of cheating and if I ever talk to a guy or friend an old high school friend on facebook (for example) he gets mad at me. If he's stressed, he takes it out on me. He won't tell me whats really wrong unless I pull it out of him. If we have a problem that I want to talk out, he refuses to talk. He'll say "i don't know" or "sure" or "whatever" when I try. He has a bit of a double standard for himself than he does to me. He'll also find a way to get mad if I'm going to hang out with a friend.
He grew up poor in Russia actually, and had a very hard life. I know this is why he does these things. He always feels bad and apologizes, but this is no excuse. He is never violent or shows any signs of it though.
A few days ago, I saw that he still had a profile up on the dating site that we met on. It was updated with new information since we had been dating and he was online that day. I called, demanding explanation and never got any. He kind of shrugged it off. He finally said his ex messaged him and asked how he was. He said he didn't answer and signed off. I looked through his phones (I have never don't this before) and saw nothing suspicious at all. I asked to see the profile before he deleted it and he refused. he did delete it though. He insisted nothing was going on. I really don't think he would cheat on me because he really is such a caring guy, but this just has me thinking.
I've tried talking about all of this to him and made it very clear I can't argue all of the time, but it keeps happening. It started after about 3 months of dating. Typing this all out now makes it seem like an obvious choice to break up with him. But I really do love him. And with this aside, he is absolutely wonderful. He's everything I want in a man. I just don't know when to stop giving chances. I was like that with my ex as well, I let that go on for way too long.
Thoughts and opinions are appreciated. Thanks.