hi. I need some advice about this guy from an independent party; if he likes me, and what I should do. Here goes, there's this guy who I like and sometimes he acts as if he's flirting. I mean, he does things like
- He let me wear his hat at rehearsal. Small, I know, except he doesn't let people wear his hat. He usually gets unhappy if people take his hat, but when I asked he just handed it over.
- he asks me questions that one would assume he knows the answer to, and he asks me, even when we're in a group.
- mini story: one day at rehearsal this kid was bugging me, so I mouthed to him "I swear I'm going to smack him." and as soon as I did, he smiled at me and smacked the kid.
- he always talks to me when we're on stage or when the director is giving directions, even though he's a seasoned actor and knows not to(admitadly, so am I and I do it too..)
- We were talking about Princess Bride and he looked at me and said "As You Wish," which anyone firmilliar with the movies knows is what Wesley says as a way of telling Buttercup he's interested
- basically, other incidents similar to those, also, I've been getting a definite vibe from him. There are a few complications, however, and they are all mostly stupid things like he's 2 years younger than I am (not that I care, just some people think it's weird), I'm leaving in January for a Semester Abroad in London, and just stupid things like that. help! Please?

It sounds to me like he likes you.

If you and he both don't care that he's 2 years younger, then it doesn't matter.

Distance relationships CAN work, so don't let the fact that you're going to London get in your way. They are not easy, and as with any healthy relationship, they require trust and loyalty on both ends, work, and open communication (that isn't to say daily communication.) The distance just strains these.

Best of luck.

Hi.

It does sound as if he likes you.

Two year age differences shouldn't be important in a relationship. It's not even very long. I'm 15 months older than my husband. We have friends where the wife is 5 or 6 years older.

Age-difference relationships are really only a major problem if the older one wants it to be a sexual relationship and the younger one is too young for that, I think.

Hope it works out well.

Welcome to the forum, theatregrl !

Sounds to me like he's interested. Try picking up the pace a little, flirt a little more. Or you could ask him out, casually, nothing romantic. Just spur of the moment kind of thing and see if he goes for it. If he does? Great! If not? His loss.
As for the age difference? A friend married a man 11 years younger than her and they are one of the happiest couples I know.
Good luck!!

one question, if he sounds like he likes you so much, do you like him?
cuz if u do just flirt back,
and if u dont...
just flirt back!
sounds silly but when you flirt back you should make yourself look really stupid.

And why is this? This implies that men like stupid females? I would have to disagree--just be yourself.

I'm sorry, but I don't understand the 'act stupid' part. If you act stupid, you will be perceived as stupid. You sound like an intelligent interesting young woman. Don't hide it. let it shine.

So, I'm thinking of asking him to run lines with me...d'you think this is a good idea or is it too ambiguous or is that sort of ambiguity a good thing at this stage?

What can it hurt? Try throwing in a little flirting and see where it goes? Or maybe a more serious conversation. Just see what the mood is and go with it.

This is one way that will make a guy pine for a girl. But its pathetic. This tactic is the one that will get you called names I'm not allowed to list on this forum.

If you want this guy to like you for yourself, then just be yourself, its really simple.

As for what to do... sure, ask him out. If he is too shy and you don't move forward it will never happen. Then if he says no, his loss. It doesn't mean that you guys can't be friends.

Hope this helps.

You mentioned in one of the situations that he was asking you questions he obviously knows the answers too. Its a typical technique guys use. A guy will ask a girl questions that he knows answers just to get her to respond. It sounds silly, but it definitely shows he interested.

I'm curious to know how interested are you? And don't think about it. If anything, you're brain will confuse you and your feelings. Go with your gut. Don't read too much into the situation. Live it out and see where it leads.