Hi Alex.

You have put this in the 'friends' section, but it seems that you are wondering if this really is a 'friendly' relationship, or has the potential to be something more.

You said, in June, that you had another 'friend' with whom you wanted a relationship ~ is this the girl you are currently dating?
http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthread...5535#Post305535

When one is dating, it is not considered appropriate to be interested in someone else, unless all parties are comfortable with this. However, one cannot help but be attracted to whomever one is attracted to.

People deal with this in different ways. Some have affairs or 'two-time'. Others make a choice. Some may date one after the other, of course ~ I'm not sure how good that would be for the two people being decided upon, but it happens in life.

So, is this the scenario ~ or have I got it wrong?
~ You are dating a girl, who you like, but are not that sure you really want to date.
~ You have met up with an old friend and you think you might like to date her.

If so, then it isn't fair to date a girl while you know that you are interested in someone else ~ and that someone else knows how you feel, too. It could be really embarrassing for her.

I think that you should either tell the 'old friend' that you are committed to your existing relationship, and see her just as a friend, or you tell the girl you are dating that you have met someone else. Otherwise it isn't fair on her (the girl you are dating). But that's just my opinion ~ only you can decide what you are going to do.

Which girl do you like better?
Which girl would you miss more if she moved away?

Can you even really answer these questions, if you have only just met the 'new' girl ~ after all, it has been a long time since you were friends?

Either way, if you are not 100% sure that you enjoy going out with the girl you are dating, is it fair to go on being boyfriend & girlfriend?

Do you mind asking how old you are?
If you are still in your teens, confusion can be the norm.
Very few people make long term decisions about life partners during this time. It is usual for people to date a number of other people ~ but, as you realise, one at a time!

Good luck!


"The secret of success is constancy to purpose" - Benjamin Disraeli.