I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years.
And over the past 6 months, I have been starting to realize that I don't want to be with him anymore.
Hi golfergirl and welcome.
I'll go through this:
After nine years, you have come to this conclusion in 6 months?
Has something happened in these last few months?
Were you very young when you got together ~ have you changed a lot over the years?
I own my home and he lives with me.
I love him, but I haven't been in love with him for sometime.
When I got married I was told that after the first few years love changes.
You still love each other, but it isn't usually the kind of exciting affair that it was at first.
How long have you actually been living together?
Perhaps this is what they call 'the seven year itch'.
It might happen whoever you were with.
I don't know how to to tell him he has to go.
I also don't know how to let him go.
I am scared that if he is the one for me, I'm blowing my chance.
Are you sure of your feelings?
You don't love him enough? In the right way? What, exactly?
If you don't love him, why would you think that he was the one for you?!
I think that this is going to be very hard for both of you.
If you don't love him, I suppose he needs to know, especially if you don't want him living with you any more.
But you say you do love him ~ and still think that he may be the one for you.
He loves me more than anything,and I know this is hurt him badly but I am starting to resent him and I don't even know why. Please help me figure out how I am to tell him.
You are sure that this relationship is over?
Why are you only now starting to resent him?
I recommend that you get counselling, first, just in case it's something that can be sorted out.
Good luck!
