Cheating and Lying :
Building Honesty :
forgiving the cheater
I have been on and off with this guy for about two years. Hes always had this friend who is a girl. They always seemed to hangout text and talk, he assured me that they were bestfriends, foolishly i believe it for a while. Eventually it woud turn into 3 am phonecalls. Thing started changing with us, he always guilt tripped me for having arguements over her. One night i confronted her at a party where she told me nothing was going on between them. Time passed and eventually he broke up with after it seemed that everything was fine. I was devastated and begged him to come back to me but he said we needed time apart. I have never cried so much in my life, I just lost the one guy ive truly loved. Months passed and eventually he started talking to me again, of course i gave him another chance. It was'nt even a month before we were together again. One night after him spending the night he had left his email open... sitting there I was curious to see if there was any excess baggage left.. I opened a old email from this girl dating back to when we broke up where she confessed to my guy that she had told her boyfriend that they had slept together and were seeing eachother. My heart dropped. I called my guy and he admitted everything to me after lieing to me for 8 months. We had a huge talk and I gave him the ultimatum of choosing between me and her ( since i knew she still talked to him) He chose me. He said he realized that a long time ago when he messed it up. He cried to his friends telling them that he had lost the one girl who hes ever cared about, and vice versa, but just made the biggest mistake of his life. It took all my strength to give him a second chance, but I do love him, and hes changed. He told the girl to get out of our lives, and now he wants to move on and forget about the past, hes even asked me to move in with him when he gets his apartment.. I still bare the pain of him lieing to me and basically cheating on me throughout our relationship but If you love something dont let it go.. it can only make it stronger. as people say " if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you its yours to keep, if it doesnt it wasnt meant to be"
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