Hi everyone! Yup, Ashes is back and kinda worried about her mental health XD. Just kidding. I just find it weird to be posting in this particular section.

So here's my situation:

One of my so-called 'best friends' told everyone last week Friday that she and another girl were going to spend the afternoon with my crush. Now, I found this quite humiliating and her whole attitude said: "I'm spending the afternoon with him and not you."

Now I refuse to talk to her because she also told all of my 'enemies' at school and gave them an excuse to have a go at me. I'd rather shut up than say anything I will regret.

So, yesterday during one of my classes, my teacher put me and two of my other best friends into a group with my crush and two other boys. Now this girl said that I was smiling the whole time and pointing it to everyone. She even got two guys laughing at me.

Later that day I asked her why she was being such a 'witch' and she told me that I haven't even seen half of it.

I didn't go to class, but when I went back and came out, I heard two of my 'enemies' say: "Ok, now we're square" amongst them.

What am I to do? My best friend is not my best friend any more. And what about my crush? Am I to forget about him? And what is her goal?

You just learned a very important life lesson. This girl was never your best friend. She is two faced and you will now be more careful about who you let into your circle of friendship. Better to have a lot of aquaintances your friendly with than one good friend who turns out to be not so good.

By the way, I think she likes your crush and so therefore is out to make you look stupid.

There are a few rules to follow when something like this happens.

1. Don't stoop to their level. Walk away rather than let them ridicule you. They will only look rude and stand out even more prominantly if you act like a lady and don't take the bait.

If your crush was worth your feelings in the first place, he will not fall for the stupidity and will see what they are doing.

2. Be cheerful and laugh and don't let them see it is getting to you.

3. Don't associate with the best friend as she was never your best friend anyway. Don't tell anyone what you think about her, as she will be trying to see if she is getting to you.

4. Do something cool like throw a party or get together for your other friends, they are followers and they will realize you are nice and not believe her. It will show them that life goes on and you are not affected.

Basically the best revenge is letting them know that you are not affected and you will only look good to your crush. If he isn't impressed and prefers to hang out with your ex good friend, then find a new crush. You can't change what you can't change. Be yourself and be proud.

Thanks for the advice, but she knows she got to me. I burst into tears (privately) the last time this happened. I've just overcome my biggest problem and because of it, I'm a bit sensitive now.

We're all only human and if our best friend lets us fown, then we are bound to be upset ~ especially if boys are involved. Something similar happened to me, when I was in my teens.

But Jo's advice is good. Try to rise above the immature silliness and it will be better for you.

Thanks a lot! But I'm trying to let me crush go. I mean, I still like him, but I'm trying to lower the intensity. My philosophy is that if he wants to be more then friends, that's ok. if he just wants to be friends, that's also ok

That sounds good