Hello,

I go to my gym a lot and over the past few times I have been there one of the girls and I have been talking alot and I would even say we have hit it off a bit, have very good flirty moments and rapport with each other.

I must admit that I think she is very nice and interesting, and pretty as well, and I would like to ask her out.


I must also admit that I have genuinely enjoyed talking to her, interacting with her and I hope my asking her out doesn't come across as I am just doing a "pick up" or anything of that nature.


With that being said, what might be a good, respectful way to ask her out?


I actually planned to ask her at the gym on wednesday but one point we walked near each other and she smiled at me but didn't say hi, though I didn't say hi either.


So I another questions I have then is does her lack of saying hi on wednesday mean I should not ask her out?



Any other thoughts? I thought I would ask as there is a good chance I could see her when I go to the gym tomorrow and I plan to ask her.


I have to admit, though, that when I get close to asking a girl out, I can get nervous and all of that. For intstance I have a good amount of female friends that I talk to and even other women, some whom I have been interested in, I can talk to with great ease and charm. Even the case of this girl at the gym, I have to say I found the earlier coversations and interactions easier because i was focused on getting to know her and such, with my knowing I might get around to ask her out later.


However, now that the point to ask her out has come, I am a bit nervous. To give an example, at the gym yesterday I happened be talking to a a girl on the machine next to me a bit and everything was going fine, but when the girl I plan to ask out came in I suddenly was kinda happy and pretty nervous at the same time.

So, yeah, when I get to the point of asking out I get nervous, tongue tied even though I am very fun and charming before that.




Thanks

You should just ask her to come to the gym with you and you can work out together. However, for the nervousness, it is completely normal every one gets it unfortunately:( but good luck!

Hi David & welcome

I agree that it is normal to feel a little nervous in situations like this.

Is there a snack bar, or something like that, at the gym? Could you suggest having a drink there, together, to cool off ~ or something like that?

Then you could chat to her about how she got involved in the gym and what her other interests are ~ and would she like to go out for a proper meal with you sometime?

Good luck!

HI,

I asked her today and she said yes. we are going out after the gym on friday.

However, do you i think I should first approach her when we are done working or can I use the elliptical machine next to her, make conversation and all?

Super!

I think that you would need to approach her during your time at the gym.

Have a great time