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My ex broke up with me 5 months ago for many reasons, the most apparent being my inability to stay sober (I wasn't doing anything about it). I recently decided that I have a definite alcohol problem and I am now actively addressing it. The future looks bright for staying sober but I still very much love her and want to have a relationship with her. Since I don't know whether it was us or the liquor, I want to give it another try . The big Q is what to do from here? Suggestions?

Isaac

Hi Isaac,

Accepting that you have a drink problem is the first step on the road to dealing with it ~ so well done. Actively addressing it is another good step, but you probably need help and support, if you haven't organised some already ~ something like Alcoholics Anonymous.

It's good that your future looks bright so really do try to keep it that way.

Now get some help and work at staying sober and sorting out this problem. Stay honest with yourself and others over this.

Consider why you drink & what makes you drink to excess. Then try to find alternative ways of responding to whatever triggers your need for alcohol.

If you still love your ex, and she broke up with you over drink-related issues, I think that it would be worth writing to her and telling her what you have told us. Good luck!

If she ended the relationship over your drinking, which is a distinct possibility - and you are willing to make a lifelong commitment to not drinking -
then i would definitely start a dialogue with your x and see if she wants to give it another go.

Thank you- i miss her so

I think it is great that you recognized the one problem and your addressing it. But I dont think it is a good idea for you to be involved with someone so fast now that you have addressed our problem. Take time to heal yourself and rest before you reenter a relationship. maybe go for relationship couseling too. Wish you the best.