Reboot 20 Day 11 -
Bob and I get into intriguing discussions now about what exactly constitutes a complaint. If I make a request, but it's in a frustrated tone, is that a complaint? He'll ask - and he means this genuinely - "could you have said that in a different tone?" And I'll stop and think about it. And often I do see that while I worked to choose healthy words, I still let frustration color them.
Certainly one could say "If I am frustrated I should express it rather than bottle it up". And that is true. But then the next step should be, "why am I allowing this to frustrate me? Is it really worth sapping my energy and health levels over this? How can I deal with it in a positive way?"
Case in point - the mess in the house. It's not rocket science. The mess makes me cranky. But griping about it clearly doesn't help
. If I just keep griping, that won't lead to a positive outcome. Action needs to be taken. The mess won't clean itself
. So I need to map out a plan, and implement it. That would be a far better use of my energy, and would lead long term to a much happier Lisa.