To add in a new thought, there are some couples who are very happily "open" and treat sex as a fun activity, like they would go skiing.
Since accepting atheism, I have come to this point. Or at least been thinking about it! Why is sex such a big deal afterall? Why do we make it what defines a relationship/marriage?
I don't understand it. I didn't marry my husband for the sex. It's great! But... well...actually I did. I was a Xtian, so we had to get married to do it.
But all in all, not why I'm married to him now. Not why I love him and need him.
If he cheated on me? I'd ask why. The answer to that says everything. Why he did it, and why he didn't tell me. Although he doesn't share my beliefs and shares the Xtian sympatheticness of marriage, which is fine by me, he'd probably get more emotional over it than me.
Me? As long as he realizes what this marriage means, and can objectify his escapades with another woman, it's all good with me. As long as he didn't get AIDS!
