Ok this is really confusing yet so deep at the same time.

I grew up with this guy who not only had(has) a crush on me, but I also had (have) a crush on him. Yes, we both liked each other and never said anything to one another. What is funny is that we both got married and had family's, are in unhappy situations and both afraid of being alone. We also were looking for each other at the same time!!!

The confusing part is, I fell in love with him and I am scared of getting hurt once again. Yes he does state he loves me as well. It's just I have been hurt so many times, my guard is up HIGH, and my heart is dangling on a string. Yes, we are both still married, we have NOT been physical at all. Just our emotions are going wild. We have thought about the physical part numerous times though. It's just sometimes I feel like maybe he doesn't care for me as much as I do for him. I tend to contact him more than he does me.

How can I find out if he's for real??