I just read the posts in this thread. I agree with PDM. I'll add this - as far as why no other men wanted to help her move, could be two reasons:
1. Men really do not just love to help others move.
2. She may seem to have hidden agendas, or likes to manipulate people in to doing what she wants done.
Sounds like he is known for his loyalty and commitment to you (at work). I know that I, also, make a point of letting others know about my love for Marge. It avoids a lot of possible "accidents."
My advice: Keep talking. And seek help together.
