I just wish she'd express herself a little more
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 8 months now...we love eachother dearly but yet it seems as tho when we aren't with eachother that i'm like a fly on the wall to her....it feels as though my feelings don't matter. i'm writing this because as of right now she was supposed to call me at 7p.m. tonight, it is now 9p.m. and i still haven't recieved a phone call. little things matter to me and it's like she doesn't see that and just ignores it. do i get mad at this or do i let it go? i try to explain it to her but she just get's upset and say's "well i guess i can't do anything right!" how do i react to the situation, i've let it go for a long time but it's just bothering me alot lately. i often find myself sitting by the phone or the computer just waiting for her to instant message me or call me. is this my fault or what's wrong? i just wish she'd express herself alittle more and showed me more instead of saying it all the time...i'm a firm believer in actions speak louder than words. help!
The way to solve this problem is pretty straight forward but you won't like it a lot.
Don't accept any more promises from her about when she will call you or whatever. Obviously she is one of those people who just can't keep track of what they should be doing. Don't expect her to do what she can't do.
Whenever she says she'll call at 7, tell her that 7 is ok but whenever is fine... or so that you'll call her at 7. This will take the burden off of her and put it on you. And since you are the one concerned about it that will work to your advantage.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com