I don't want this sad atmosphere
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am in love with my best friend. I have been friends with this guy for over 2.5 years and we became extremely close over the last year and half. He was extremely supportive when my grandmother passed away and I was in a different country and couldn't go home immediately. He was always there for me when I had serious issues with my room-mates and spent many nights in library lounge at school when I hated going back to my apt.(due to roomate trouble)...I have always been the more expressive and initiating person in our friendship...asking him to go out for movies n dinner with me. I realised I really cared a lot more about him than just a friend last winter. I hinted a lot and still when he did nothing about it, I told him that I really liked him. We got a little physical with each other for a few months after which I graduated and moved to a different city for my job. However, he said he couldn't feel the spl. love for me though he valued my friendship. We are still great friends and very supportive of each other. We speak to each other almost everyday and though I don't tell him over and over again that I love him, he sure knows. He gets upset if we talk anything relateed to this cuz he feels he causes pain to me by saying no but he is unable to say yes. It has not been easy for me either. I don't have time to make new friends cuz my work schedule is hectic. The stress of the new placec/job and not having him is bogging me down. I can't think of sharing my life with anyone but him but he is not ready to take up a job near where I live (he's currently looking for jobs after graduating)or meet. He says the more I see him, the more difficult it is going to be for me to move on.
Help me please. I dont want this sad atmosphere lingering around both of us.
He is right.
If he moves near you it will only make it more difficult for you. You need time away from him. You will always have the phone to keep in touch.
A time comes when it is necessary to leave someone behind and that time has come for you. Try to think of this loss as an opportunity to find someone you can be happy with.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com