Has she truly moved on?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I am 16 and my g/f broke up with me about 3 months ago. We had a loving relationship and we fell in love dancing to a song we both love. she broke up with me for "feelings" she still had for her ex.She Insisted it was the right thing because she feels she was dragging me along and lying to me.
We were fine and I was too clingy but we got in a fight in December and it was horrible getting so mad at eachother. A week later after not talking we started talking again admitting we both missed talking to each other and being friends.
We became friends and became close talking and eventually she said we were going too fast and that she feels she is leading me on. So we just were normal friends.
Eventually she went on a date with a former close friend and at a dance she still danced with me again and told me "he is a friend and I don't feel for him like that cuz he is like a brother to me" so I accepted that although it seemed they were holding hands and later watched a movie together.
We still were friends and made plans for dates. He constantly was around her and clinging on to her without hesitation and she eventually started being around him more. She told me they are still friends.
We then planned a movie date. That day came but I found out he took her to dinner the night before and then she got in a fight with her mother being unable to now go to the movie. Being crushed I felt she lied to me.
I was mad at her and wrote her a note that I never should've have written. It turned out not what I was trying to say but came off mean. She was upset and mad by the note and wrote me back telling me she has moved on and that I should try to find a girlfriend. I talked to her later and apologized although she seemed a little mad still.
Now today she told me she is not mad but she does not want to talk to me because of that note still. So i took that acception admitting I was wrong to write that note and that it takes time cuz i'm a slow learner. she did not reply. I then get out of class and see her with the guy who was "like a brother" holding hands and basically together in a relationship.
I am very upset by this and she told me she would tell me if she were to get in a relationship with this guy that she would be the first to tell me, and she didn't. This guy is not a guy who I would expect her to date. Seriously, they do not look as a couple type but as a brother/sister relationship. I know him and he is a persistant Obsessive/possesive guy who is pushy with girls until her gets what he wants. Ex, he asked my ex out 10 times and she had not say yes yet. This guy hates me and has hated me because of me liking her and wants to jump me but despite that my ex won't let him and says she still wants to be my friend.
I still love her and I do not want to give her up because I am determined we can have something good between us again. I have told her I have moved on and want to be friends but I realize now that was a lie.
Is she doing this to get me jealous? Has she truly moved on or does she say that to hide what she still feels? She does not like seeing me sad and tells me to be happy. I am not going to give her up yet because I truly love her.
What should I say to her?
Should I tell her how I feel?
IS it possible she did this because I made her mad yesterday?
please help me because I love her so much and we were so happy together and still are happy around eachother.
What should I do?
She still seems to have feelings for you.
My advice is to give her space and see what develops.
To do this, ask her if you can call her once a week for 15 mins. When you talk, ask her how she is, cheerfully tell her that you still love her but don't get into any more details.
She should get over her anger at your note pretty soon so do worry about that.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com